The Hurt Thread

[PyroSlasher]

Mods,please dont delete this like you did my last thread.I really wanna find something out here.

Okay ,people are depressed .....so what?This is the first idea that comes to someones mind when they hear someone ,who isnt close to them,is hurt.But,when they feel hurt and betrayed,they mightnt tell their associates about it but none the less ,expect a certain amount of care and concern from them.In other words ,ppl are generally so self centered that they expect society to show them care(Which is natural) butin turn,show little or no consideration for the fellings of others.so it forms a cycle.....hence the reason for depression.
 So then.....I wanna hear what is the reason you believe that people simply dont realize what society really is and get over whats hurting them?Because everyone is hurt in some way.....but is it really a big deal .....or do YOU just make it into one?                    

[CRaZyAnGeL]

gettin hurt isnt a big deal...ppl make it a big deal lol.....
dis might sound wierd buh try to to care too much bout anytin....dat way it wudnt hurt as much if sumtin goes wrong....                    

[Hinata]

what???so we shouldnt be care bout anything???then what is d point of livin...jus to exist??                    

[Chaos]

true..but then ppl see you as some kind of cold person if you do't show some concern or act like u really don't care....                    

[Hinata]

i think that u need to have a little hurt in ur life every once in a while cause it lets u know that u are stil alive and human                    

[Chaos]

so what about the people who can't deal with that hurt?? have they lost their humanity in losing their ability to deal with problems?                    

[perfectdrug]

true..but then ppl see you as some kind of cold person if you do't show some concern or act like u really don't care....

So what if ppl see you as cold...
...everyones interpretation of you and your feelings will be different...

...there are some ppl who will be willing to stand out and find out the reason for something...
...then there are those who will listen to their 'friends' or simply what anyone says...

...the problem is we, as humans, internalize what other ppl say...
...there is this idea that once society does not accept you for who you are then you are obliged to change...
...there are few out there who are comfortable being unique...an individual...
...unfortunately we are severely outnumbered...

...so...
...by this constant struggle to 'fit in'...
...ppl get hurt and feel passed over...
...then depending on how they treated the people that actually cared about them while they were on this road to self-discovery...
...that will deternine how many ppl they have to help them...
...those ppl are your true friends...
...they will help you to fully analyse your situation...
...and try to find a solution...                    

[Rock_Angel]

the way ppl are made is to show emotion and that is wat differs us from machines and the way in which we deal wit these emotions for eg the individual way that we deal wit emotion is wat makes us different from other animals......and so the same way pyro that u say how ppl perpetuate the cycle of depressions and the way that ppl choose not to bother wit it and let it be is wat m,akes us humans and how our life is                    

[Anonymous]

everyone gets hurt
what i dont like is the pity lookers
some ppl naturally desrve the pity
but these are the ppl who dont complain and seek pity from others
these are the ppl who simpply live life bear the pain and move
these are the ppl who desrve pity for life threating them so hard

what i dont like is ppl
who stress out on minor problems
and dont want to try and make things better
and then whine and complain abt the same things over and over
trying to get ur pity that sometimes makes me sick                    

[CRaZyAnGeL]

what???so we shouldnt be care bout anything???then what is d point of livin...jus to exist??

uhhh..i tink u misunderstood wha i posted....i said try nut to care TOO MUCH.....we r human so we are expected to care bout stuff buh sumtimes ppl care too much bout evryting an get hurt for trivial stuff an den dey get depressed an stuff...all i meant was to try nut to take on trivial stuff....only care bout realy important stuff....an if ppl kno u r like dat den if dey see u carin abotu sumtin dey will kno dat it iz important an respect it whaeva it iz......im nut a cold person....an i doh care about trivial stuff....im still alive an crazy an nut depressed so iz all good...                    

[PyroSlasher]

I agree with crazy,but crazy what your saying isnt completely true.You said not to get hurt for trivial stuff.But what is trivial.What you perseve trivial to be would be different to what I sense it to be ,and so you cant tell what really matters to a person.So,thats where the problem of peoples hurt comes in.....because they might be suicidal over what you may just "breeze over".                    

[TAZ]

lol                    

[clawz]

ppl get hurt 4 the wrong reasons......
but pain is something i can't show .......i always hide my pain and sadness by laughing ..........just tryin to be happy but really inside i am crying and i am in pain ...................
4 me i think that if i doh show my pain everything will go away but i am just foolin myself it will always be here inside of me ....................
tryin to smile when u are hurting believe u end up feelin worse and then u begin to feel sorry fuh yuh self ......(when ppl is hurt is not a good thing ) u end up hurting yuh self and everybody else also .......(NOT A GOOD THING TO FEEL )                    

[ShinIori]

I enjoy getting hurt.
Its what drives me.                    

[perfectdrug]

I enjoy getting hurt.
Its what drives me.

...that's all well and good...
...but...
...can i ask you a question...
...do you ever get carried away and feel like everyone should experience pain too???...                    

[PyroSlasher]

ppl get hurt 4 the wrong reasons......
but pain is something i can't show .......i always hide my pain and sadness by laughing ..........just tryin to be happy but really inside i am crying and i am in pain ...................
4 me i think that if i doh show my pain everything will go away but i am just foolin myself it will always be here inside of me ....................
tryin to smile when u are hurting believe u end up feelin worse and then u begin to feel sorry fuh yuh self ......(when ppl is hurt is not a good thing ) u end up hurting yuh self and everybody else also .......(NOT A GOOD THING TO FEEL )

Hideing your feelings actually will work .....if you know how to control it.But,to smile for the sake of ppl around you ...even though your hurting is wrong.So Claws,instead of going and telling everyone how you feel,find a good friend and have a long talk about whats troubling you.But to hide it from ppl who GENUINELY care for you is also wrong.                    

[Loser]

I agree  with Pyro...hiding it is definately wrong. That's why there's friends! They "are angels that lift us to our feet when we've forgotten how to fly".
When I'm hurt it's hard to get over it and try to move on... but I have accomplished  getting over some... and there's still some I haven't managed to get over...but life does go on... so I try to adapt as fast as possible...regardless of my emotional state... but that's just me... everyone's got a  unique way of dealing with problems... so it all boils down to YOU!                    

[perfectdrug]

ppl get hurt 4 the wrong reasons......
but pain is something i can't show .......i always hide my pain and sadness by laughing ..........just tryin to be happy but really inside i am crying and i am in pain ...................
4 me i think that if i doh show my pain everything will go away but i am just foolin myself it will always be here inside of me ....................
tryin to smile when u are hurting believe u end up feelin worse and then u begin to feel sorry fuh yuh self ......(when ppl is hurt is not a good thing ) u end up hurting yuh self and everybody else also .......(NOT A GOOD THING TO FEEL )

...i was reading a book...
...and it said something about womyn always make self-sacrifices as to alleviate the pain of everyone else...
...so maybe 'subconsciously' that is what you are doing